Are you a feminist?
Does the word make you angry? Hell, do you have feminist values but refuse to tie your views and attitudes to that disastrous word? If it’s the latter then you are not alone, countless people (male and female) are misinformed on that Dreaded F Word. Yet, millennials have got real educated on the subject, and they are starting a revolution.
You don’t need to wear a slogan tee with the worded feminism branded across it to be part of the movement – this itself does not give you the stamp of feminist approval, it’s a bit more than a £15.99 purchase. You don’t need to stop shaving either – but you can.
Contemporary society, however, is making sure that once dreaded ‘F’ word is plastered in every high street store, trending on all the social media platforms and publicly shaming those who do wrong. It’s the millennials who are buying the tops, hash-tagging their tweets and verbally shaming those who do wrong.
Last week Big Bang Theory’s self confessed feminist Mayim Bialik fell victim to the educated generation when she preached her own (ill-educated) version of the term. Bialkik praised dressing ‘modestly’ and police her own behaviour in her piece “Being a Feminist in Harvey Weinstein’s World”:
Bialik talked about her fashion choices and behavior towards men, saying that she dresses modestly and does not “act flirtatiously with men as a policy.”
“I am entirely aware that these types of choices might feel oppressive to many young feminists.”
She said that these ‘simple steps’ had saved her from unwanted male attention. Remember: Slut-shaming quickly becomes victim blaming, including when you’re slut-shaming yourself for wearing that cute low cut top. Scrutinising other women’s behaviour and choosing to victim blame, whether intended or not, is not feminism.
Telling women that they shouldn’t wear that short skirt because it encourages rapists is not feminism, it’s just wrong. Women, and men, do not get raped because of what they wear – they get raped because they meet a fucking rapist. Yet the older generation seem to not get quite grasp this concept.
What kind of message does attitudes such as Bialik’s give? Her attitude is not uncommon, but this doesn’t make it anymore correct. It tells men that women dressing provocatively and/or acting flirtatiously means that they must be ‘asking for it’. Why else would a woman do these things? Heaven forbid it’s because she feels confident and comfortable in her own skin, obviously not. Obviously she’s asking to be raped. *note the sarcasm*
Are you part of the new feminist movement?