Marrying yourself: self-love or social suicide?

You can rub your own feet. You can scratch your own itch. You can even satisfy yourself.

Not really the same though is it? Not the same as waking up next to another warm body rather than a ‘boyfriend pillow’. Trusty and dependable as he is.

Self-love and acceptance is key to a happy life, but you shouldn’t need a ring to cement that – you just need to know.

Holding a ceremony and inviting guests to watch you ‘love yourself’ (once you get past the inevitable innuendos) is just going one step to far. Do you, but don’t feel the need to make a song and dance about it.

Feminism is defined by each woman differently, its definition is interchangeable and that’s a good thing.

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However, arguably if we act like crazy cat ladies are we not fuelling the stigma? No glass ceiling is going to shatter because you threw a petty-pity-party – you’re just going to eat some good cake.

Laura Mesi, 40, has sparked this debate after throwing her own wedding day after splitting from her boyfriend of twelve years – the wedding was more like a funeral for her last relationship, it looks like she had a hell of a good time at the wake.

Laura said: “I firmly believe that each of us must first of all love ourselves,”.

Yes, yes, yes, yes. Still think most of us won’t quite marry ourselves, not just yet anyway.

We are in contemporary UK, some people love being with someone and some people don’t. Be single. Be in a relationship. Have sex with a different person every weekend. Enjoy nights out with your partner. Put on that relationship weight. Never cheat. Just do you, the very best you.

Laura told the BBC, “If one day I find a man with whom I can plan a future I’ll be happy, but my happiness does not depend on him.”

Big questions: does she have to divorce herself? Is she her own lock screen? Why am I slightly jealous of her big day?



11 thoughts on “Marrying yourself: self-love or social suicide?

  1. I actually find this so interesting I think it’s anazing she had it as a ceremony for herself and to her mark the end of her marriage too? Not sure I’d marry myself but I do love the sentiment of it! Haha my cat will always be my phone screen x

    Kayleigh Zara 🌿

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    1. I do love the sentiment of it all but agree I wouldn’t do it myself. Self acceptance is ALWAYS key but I don’t know if feeling the need to broadcast it can sometimes be just that: a front. I hope she’s happy!
      And haha, that’s adorable!!! 🐱 ❤️


  2. I happen to agree without apology when I say that symbolically she missed the boat. This is the most absurd thing lol. And it wasn’t even about feminism, it was about staging a drama rather than speaking anything at all about self love and singleness. Point of proof- she is still single after the show but with a lot more national attention. Feminism is not about singleness or coupling. So yeah, there will be the other side just ready to get their feathers in a fickle about it.

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    1. I agree, feminism isn’t about whether you’re alone or been with the same person for five years. It’s about striving for equality, confidence and self acceptance!

      Thanks for taking the time to read and comment!

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  3. in a way I understand all of this but when comparing to myself – I wouldn’t be able to live without another human touch.

    🍂Jasmin N

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