What happens when the person you turn to isn’t there anymore? You crumble. That shoulder to lean on has disappeared and you fall flat on your sad little face. Who do you turn to? A paid professional or cheap book? The ever growing market of self-help books can only support you, right?
Books can’t pack up their bags and leave, they can’t decline calls or air you. They’re just fucking books after all. Are self-help books the new portable-pocket-professionals?
Self-love is the best and most reliable type of love.
The Contemporary UK is all about independence and liberation though we still turn to other people for help, why is this? Because humans are hardwired to communicate. This isn’t a bad thing until those relationships crumble – not always through anyone’s fault.
When this happens people often turn to paid professionals: therapists, aka complete strangers with degrees in the human mind. Though this can be helpful it’s important to realise that some problems can be broken down in your own head.
Does therapy work? What is the correct way to process emotions?
“Quartz recently published an article headlined “Researchers say you might as well be your own therapist”, summarising a paper that contrasts self-help therapy with therapist-delivered therapy. The authors of the paper “found no difference in treatment completion rate and broad equivalence of treatment outcomes for participants treated through self-help and participants treated through a therapist”.
So, is therapy a load of s***? No.
Therapy is simple: what you put in is normally what you get out. Breathing exercises, CBT, hashing over past experiences and analysing behavior are just some of the ways that professionals help out patients. Every day peoples lives are changed behind psychiatrists doors – not always on leather couches.
The prognosis seems that to get better people often use self-help techniques but it’s how they find to these strategies. Is it time to take out the middle man and all just buy a handful of self-help books? It’s definitely more appealing for your bank balance.
Not quite. Self-help can be brilliant but sometimes it takes reaching rock bottom or having an actual professional pointing you in the right direction. A book won’t do that for you. A book won’t pass you a tissue or hold your gaze while you divulge your distress.
Therapists show compassion and adapt, but, words on a page don’t change.