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Therapy: Are self-help books the new portable-pocket-professionals?

What happens when the person you turn to isn’t there anymore? You crumble. That shoulder to lean on has disappeared and you fall flat on your sad little face. Who do you turn to? A paid professional or cheap book? The ever growing market of self-help books can only support you, right?

Books can’t pack up their bags and leave, they can’t decline calls or air you. They’re just fucking books after all. Are self-help books the new portable-pocket-professionals?

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The Contemporary UK is all about independence and liberation though we still turn to other people for help, why is this? Because humans are hardwired to communicate. This isn’t a bad thing until those relationships crumble – not always through anyone’s fault.

When this happens people often turn to paid professionals: therapists, aka complete strangers with degrees in the human mind. Though this can be helpful it’s important to realise that some problems can be broken down in your own head.

Does therapy work? What is the correct way to process emotions?

“Quartz recently published an article headlined “Researchers say you might as well be your own therapist”, summarising a paper that contrasts self-help therapy with therapist-delivered therapy. The authors of the paper “found no difference in treatment completion rate and broad equivalence of treatment outcomes for participants treated through self-help and participants treated through a therapist”.

The Guardian.

So, is therapy a load of s***? No.

Therapy is simple: what you put in is normally what you get out. Breathing exercises, CBT, hashing over past experiences and analysing behavior are just some of the ways that professionals help out patients. Every day peoples lives are changed behind psychiatrists doors – not always on leather couches. 

The prognosis seems that to get better people often use self-help techniques but it’s how they find to these strategies. Is it time to take out the middle man and all just buy a handful of self-help books? It’s definitely more appealing for your bank balance.

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Not quite. Self-help can be brilliant but sometimes it takes reaching rock bottom or having an actual professional pointing you in the right direction. A book won’t do that for you. A book won’t pass you a tissue or hold your gaze while you divulge your distress.

Therapists show compassion and adapt, but, words on a page don’t change. 

 

 

 

16 comments

    1. I agree! Thanks for reading the piece and I’m glad you found it interesting!

      A good self help book can be like a friend and a good therapist can be like a comforting memory!

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  1. I don’t think self-help books should be solely relied on to help. Having someone who is professionally trained to help you is so much better for you. The books can help as part of a wider treatment but not on their own. As it’s so hard to put what you read into action if you don’t have the guidance of someone, who knows how to handle the situation.

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  2. I genuinely think that one form of therapy won’t work for everyone. There is no ‘one size fits all’ therapy for the modern society. Some may benefit from having that objective person sitting in front of them listening or advising different techniques to get through the problem. Others may find reading words on a page sinks in better or even listening to a self-help tape or some equivalent.
    One thing I know for sure is that people are so into keeping fit and physically healthy – going on clean eating diets, or getting a personal trainer. Why don’t more people make an effort to look after their mental health in the same way?! It seems that people only see the need to once they’ve already hit rock bottom or they become seriously ill. I feel like if everyone took a little more time for their emotional well-being we might find that we could prevent some mental health issues before they get to that stage……just something I’ve been thinking recently!

    Fab post as ever my love! Thoroughly enjoy reading them – they get my mind working!

    Carrie xx
    http://www.thelipsticktrail.com

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    1. Wow that is such an amazing point! It’s true that not one size fits all!

      It’s really strange that people don’t take more time to look after their mental health like they do their physical health – gutted I didn’t think of this before when writing the piece!

      Always love your perspective!
      Thanks for reading doll.
      ❤️❤️

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  3. I think that everyone responds to therapy differently, but it was very interesting hearing what you had to say about it. Sometimes I think that just one form of thearapy won’t always help, and it’s best to use a couple!

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  4. If there’s something in a book you don’t quite understand you can’t ask from it to tell you more.
    From therapist, you can ask & maybe get some answers 🙂

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  5. My friend is actually in therapy and their therapist recommended an app even though the sessions aren’t cheap themselves; I think it’s great that we can get our own portable help but I don’t think we should always rely on them 🙂
    Sarah x
    saraheliza.co.uk

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  6. I’ve tried both therapy and self-help books. I found they work best in different situations, it depends on how you’re feeling and what your mindset is.

    Faye Jessica | fayejessica.co.uk

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