Nobody is born self conscious of their vagina. We don’t look in the mirror when puberty hits and decide to spend £15,000 on getting a porn-perfect ‘front bum’ without social pressures playing their part.
Here’s the bad news…
Yes, men can be disgusting. Porn has brainwashed a portion of men, and admittedly that portion isn’t small, into believing that vagina’s hit puberty and don’t change. They do. They can darken or grow, hair sprouts and blood seeps out of that area once a month.
Every vagina is different just like every person is!
Though some men don’t always seem to accept this. After hundreds of hours of porn and thousands of electronically enhanced (aka photoshopped) images of unrealistic women it’s not hard to see why normal bodies can quickly be seen as ‘abnormal’.
Male friends will (begrudgingly) admit to conversations where vagina’s with visible inner labia can get labelled as ‘kebab meat’ or ‘roast beef’. Those folds of skin that you uneducated lads (and sometimes lasses) refer to as ‘saggy vagina’ is actually scientifically known as a ladies ‘vulva’.
Yes, we live in a world where people judge and insult body parts – natural body parts that people have no control over. How boring would it be if we were all the same? Every single woman shouldn’t want the same vagina – I sure as hell don’t want a boy I’m with to think my vagina looks exactly the same as the woman before me.
Do you want to show these guys your most private part? They do not deserve the most intimate part of yourself – all they deserve is to educate themselves on vagina’s and women. On being a human being.
However, there is good news…
We are currently living in the most liberated generation – embrace the times, your gender and your body!
Also, not all guys think negatively about vaginas. Meet a guy who is nasty about your vagina? Sack him off. Meet a guy who can’t get enough of your vagina and acknowledges just how cute it is? That’s great, but shouldn’t be a surprise – this should be an expectation. Don’t reward behaviour that should be expected – you and your vagina deserve love and nothing less.
Abnormal or Adorable?
Talk to any health professional and they will assure you that being self conscious about your vagina is more common than wanting to drop your drawers at the click of a finger. Porn has got to us all. There’s no such thing as abnormal when it comes to labia.
Did you know that nobody has identical lips either side? How comforting is that fact? But also not shocking, not at all. That’s also comforting. Vagina’s aren’t symmetrical and it’s completely normal for women’s inner labia to protrude beyond the outer lips.
Blame porn – we should all, men and women alike, fight the fight against discrimination because of porn. Don’t hate the women, hate the producers – those women only look the way because of the pressure from their producers and that transpires to pressure on us – women of the world. Sadly this means the more porn a guy watches the less educated they are on real women with real body parts.
Labiaplasty/costy-aloty
Who’s loving the designer vagina trend? Those cashing in on it – cosmetic surgeons. I do feel that sometimes surgery can be right for some people: inner labia can become uncomfortable, infected or dry. If your labia is damaging your health or affecting your day to day life then yes, surgery may be right for you.
But, if it’s only society making you uncomfortable then no, surgery isn’t the best option. Self love and confidence is.
But, even worse than that… once your flesh is in the bin, so are those nerve endings. Your labia is full of them. Sex can become less enjoyable and reaching climax can become really difficult. The more labia = more nerve-endings/pleasurable area to cover! Who wants to give up that?
So, for all you vulva fascists insulting women’s ‘ugly vaginas’ you’re being silly, not only because you’re making yourself a lesser candidate to have sex with but also because those ‘disgusting women’ are easier to please, which is going to be necessary if your brainwashed-porn-minds go in thinking it’s as easy as porn to please a real woman.
Feminist women are not so empowered that they become immune to all critique and social pressures. All women are human and unless a woman has thrown back a couple of glasses of wine (or a dozen shots) you can bet she is wondering what you’re thinking when her pants come down and her vulnerability is not able to hide – unless those lights are off and inhibitions lowered.
Featured image courtesy of Stay at Home Mom.
Another good post, speaking as a mine I don’t want perfect I want natural and individual use what god gave you.
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Exactly! This is the attitude all men need to have!
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I guess I’m quite lucky that this isn’t something I’ve spent loads of time thinking about! It is what it is and that’s the way I’m supposed to be!
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You’re right! It’s liberating to hear that you’ve been lucky enough to not be affected by this social pressure.
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I’ve never actually thought that mine would be ugly. I know what it looks like but I think all vaginas are pretty on their own way. My hubby seems to like it also, so there’s nothing to worry about. It’s true that porn has brainwashed most of the men or well, people in general but there are so many things that well, doesn’t work with everyone.
Great one!
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I love this attituide! Fantastic to hear and glad you enjoyed the post!
PS, lucky hubby!
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I am loving all your empowering posts! Keep it up!! 😀
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AAAH love to hear that you’re enjoying the blogs current style!
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I’ve never really had any self conscious thoughts about my vagina but I know people who have? It’s really gross when males are judgemental about it to he honest, it’s not like penis’s are super attractive? Thanks for sharing anther really educational post x
Kayleigh Zara 🌿www.kayleighzaraa.com
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We aren’t all judgemental
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Thanks for reading, so so sweet of you and I couldn’t agree more with what you’ve said!
Glad you’re enjoying the posts! X
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Another great post Charlie! I guess there are loads of girls out there who are concerned about this, luckily I’ve never been one of them but I can imagine it can be a horrible feeling to have about such an intimate area! X
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Ah that’s lucky for you sweet! I know that many girls, a lot of my friends, feel so many pressures to look ‘perfect’ when there is such no thing!
Thanks for reading x
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Great post, thankfully its not something i personally worried about being in a long term relationship but can see how some women get caught up thinking they need to look a certain way. x
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Babe the photos you have used are genius! Such a useful and brilliant post. Love reading your stuff, it’s so bold and inspiring. Keep it up!
Carrie x
http://www.thelipsticktrail.com
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Ah that’s such a sweet comment and really has made my entire day! Thank you so much and really glad you enjoyed yet another one of my posts!
PS, my favourite thing about this one is the photos – especially the little cupcakes!!! Xx
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This was such a good read. I’ve been feeling very insecure about my private areas for a while, but have no reason why. No one has ever said anything or anything like that and my husband is obsessed with my package. This post has made me feel more confident and released that stupid voice in my head. Thank you.
Lots of love,
Agnese | http://www.agnesehadebe.com
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That is SO fantastic to hear! I seem to have phases myself of feeling inadequate down there or not ‘tucked in enough’ it’s horrible feel that way! I’m so glad this has offered you some comfort – people like you are why I shared such an intimate post. Thanks for reading and lucky hubby!
Xo
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